Would you be offended if a friend said they could not afford to be part of your wedding party? - teacher wedding shower
A friend of mine has asked me to be her maid of honor for 3 years and one week before her wedding, the groom, they stopped. I felt bad for them, but there were signs all the time. However, I have a lot of money to the wedding, we do not really pay, but of course it was not his fault.
Fast forward now, a dedicated news and just can not afford to be in their marriage. I am a mother staying at home (former teacher) and my husband is a teacher. We are firmly on money, but it's worth, it may be a mother at home. But I am also a bridesmaid at the wedding of another (a friend I) as my sister. It is worthwhile for just about everything b / c she is not much money.
Would you be offended if a friend has told me he could not be in your wedding b / c of money, especially after so much time? I also know it was not his fault, but as a bridesmaid is expected to pay too much ... Engagement, wedding shower, bachelor party, other than gifts ...
Thank you.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Teacher Wedding Shower Would You Be Offended If A Friend Said They Could Not Afford To Be Part Of Your Wedding Party?
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No, not offended. Unless it pays for itself, I really do not see how you could annoy them. If you are on a fixed income, as it is! We can not expect to borrow more than any other wedding!
Do not feel ashamed. This is perfectly understandable. If you do not pay for everything, just tell him, and can not understand why, it's a good friend.
You can do it in a way that deserves mention money. "Carla, I am honored to pieces when I ask myself, but I would not be able to accomplish tasks. Ask someone who is really capable of, the rights to her bridesmaids. Everyone" Why not? "The test must be satisfied with with vague answers, but acknowledges that simple," It is impossible "and" I'll let you know if things change. "Then and only then if the woman was asked directly:" Is it the money? "If you talk to. It was not entitled to the topic.
When it has reached this point, the bride may not offer or even to cover their costs. What are his own problems brings. First, his "free ride" is a dark secret from him, not that the other participants. Secondly, it would establish a very, very literally to whether the bride means that you get for her dress and shoes, or if it also means that secretly slipping $ 200 to $ 300 must be paid here is that you can do your part shower , party and gift expenses Without the knowledge of the other participants. You should also not recognizing that their sponsorship is not the employees - as long as other participants to donate, but no more.
Thus, even if he offers, "Pay Your Way" is really long and hard to accept. The "new marriage" is a convenient way for you when we visited, and not to be "honored" to what they all want to be disturbed.
You can do it in a way that deserves mention money. "Carla, I am honored to pieces when I ask myself, but I would not be able to accomplish tasks. Ask someone who is really capable of, the rights to her bridesmaids. Everyone" Why not? "The test must be satisfied with with vague answers, but acknowledges that simple," It is impossible "and" I'll let you know if things change. "Then and only then if the woman was asked directly:" Is it the money? "If you talk to. It was not entitled to the topic.
When it has reached this point, the bride may not offer or even to cover their costs. What are his own problems brings. First, his "free ride" is a dark secret from him, not that the other participants. Secondly, it would establish a very, very literally to whether the bride means that you get for her dress and shoes, or if it also means that secretly slipping $ 200 to $ 300 must be paid here is that you can do your part shower , party and gift expenses Without the knowledge of the other participants. You should also not recognizing that their sponsorship is not the employees - as long as other participants to donate, but no more.
Thus, even if he offers, "Pay Your Way" is really long and hard to accept. The "new marriage" is a convenient way for you when we visited, and not to be "honored" to what they all want to be disturbed.
Wait until you are prompted. If you go tell him you love him and look forward to as a presenter or a guest to participate, but I say that money is tight, and just can not now afford to.
Good luck
I do not understand why someone would kick it to someone else's financial situation. If I (someone asked my wedding and could not (for whatever reason) who may be disappointed, but there is no reason for the attack unless you say something) something unpleasant.
I do not see why there should be a problem. If she wants enough to see if something can be resolved will be reused: otherwise the cost ... it will only accept your gentle slope, and we'll send you an invitation to attend the ceremony to their shares happy day (fortunately!)
I am not offended. I understand.
I am not offended. I understand.
I am not offended. I understand.
Hello. First, ask to wait for it (if you do not.) Explain if they are honest, but simply can not afford.
No, if I did not offend me at all. Of course you want your friends involved in your marriage, but each has its own financial problems and as a friend, you must be able to understand them.
PS ..... If you ever asked in the marriages of others to be ..... I've never heard of the maid of honor belongs to the engagement party. It's usually the parents (at least where I live, that is.)
Good luck!
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